Lessons on life, the struggle is real

This time of year always has me reflecting. What have I accomplished this year? What else do I want to accomplish before the end of the year? Am I happy with where I am in life? What changes do I need to make? I started at the basics and have been thinking about the most important lessons I’ve learned in life that I’ve had to remind myself of this year. These lessons make up who I am and drive most of my decision making. These are the root of everything.

Things won’t always go your way

There will be things that happen in your life that you didn’t ask for and that you didn’t deserve. That’s just how it goes. It’s okay. It will get better. When one door closes, another door opens. And usually it’s something better. Have faith and trust that everything happens for a reason.

You will lose people along the way

People will walk out of your life or will be taken from your life too early. It will hurt, you can’t get past that. But some people are only meant to be in your life for a short period of time to teach you a lesson. Not everyone will live up to the standards you have for them. We have to learn to let go of these people simply  because they are toxic and will only hold us back from our full potential.

People will forget about you

Like I said, some people are only meant to be in your life for a brief period of time. You will do things for these people and feel accomplished and they will do things for you and make you feel like you have a friend. But people fade a part and friendships change. The phone calls and lunch dates become non-existent and you’re not as important to them. They will forget about you. But you’ll also forget about others too.

There will be happiness, and there will be suffering. Be grateful.

Life is a constant cycle of happiness and suffering. You’ll be high on life and then get the worst news of your life. We can’t control the natural occurrences of life. But we can control how we react to them. And we should choose to be grateful for everything. The good and the bad. Life is too short to suffer. Find the lesson in the pain and be grateful for the experience.

You do not know what other people are going through

You really have no idea. We are all on different walks and have been many different places. Unless you know the ins and outs of someone or been in a similar situation, you don’t know what they are going through. Be kind to everyone. Someone could be having a really bad day, and an unkind gesture from you could send them overboard. Keep an open mind and be aware of the people around you.

You will make mistakes

Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. You will make mistakes. Some of them will be REALLY big mistakes, and others minimal. Be prepared to be disappointed in yourself at times.

But those mistakes will only make you stronger

Always learn from your mistakes. Do not keep making the same mistakes over and over again. When you learn from your mistakes you become a different person with a new perspective. You grow through the consequences and become a better human.

Surround yourself with good people

You are the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with. Make sure you hang out with good people. You need people in your life who will raise your positive energy and help you to vibrate at a higher frequency. People who affirm you and encourage your success. If someone is not bringing happiness and positivity to your life, it’s time to let them go.

Comparing yourself to others will only make you miserable

We all do it. Her face is prettier than mine. He has more money than me. I don’t have anything to show for my hard work and they do. The only thing comparing yourself to others is going to do is affirm yourself of those lies. You will begin to attract those lies and live in constant comparison. You will never see yourself as good enough and you will never be happy with your life. Start to feel grateful for the things that you do have and trust the process.

It’s not about what you used to be; it’s about what you can be

Your past does not define you. It’s okay to be somebody different than who you were 10 years ago. If you’re not a different person, something is wrong. We learn and grow through our experiences. Our experiences shape us in to who we are. What we become from those experiences is up to us. Learn from your past. Do not make the same mistakes. Believe in your full potential and you will do great things.

There is only so much you can take

Toxic things, and people are all around us. They fill us up with negativity. They hold us back from doing what we really want to do in life.You have to let them go and you know it. Those things are only hurting you. And as humans, there is only so much hurt and negativity we can take. As we get older, we learn to make better decisions, and let go of the things and people that are not good for us.

When you learn to live with less, you find that you have so much more

As a kid, I used to think happiness was all about having a big house with a fancy car and taking lavish vacations year round. And although those things are nice to have, you’re missing the important stuff. I was kind of forced into a minimalist lifestyle after moving so many times and eventually moving into my current tiny apartment. I was slightly embarrassed by the lack of stuff I had to show for myself. And I can’t have people over because I can’t afford a big enough apartment. I’ve since learned to live with a minimal amount of stuff and not place my value in my things. Letting go of a materialistic dream has been so freeing. Learn to find value in your relationships and your legacy and you start getting so much more from life.

Meditate. Hang out with your soul.

Take the time to get to know yourself and what makes you, you. Meditation is a great stress reviler and will give you a clear head to face any situation. Meditation connects you to a source higher than yourself and your inner power. It helps to keep you on your path and follow your purpose. As cheesy as it sounds, explore spirituality. There is so much out there and it is important to find the methods that work for you.

Forgiving is not easy, but is essential

This is the hardest lesson I have had to learn so far in life. I’m a stubborn girl and I can hold a grude like you’ve never seen. I will hold on to the negative feelings I have towards someone and let them fuel my fire until I’m tired of burning that bridge. But I’ve come to learn that holding on to those feelings, only puts a negative bubble around myself. I allow those things to ruin my mood and steal my happiness. By learning to forgive those who have wronged me I’ve found freedom. They no longer have power to effect my life. Choosing to forgive someone is not you saying what they did is ok. It’s you claiming power over your life and choosing to live in the freedom of letting go.