I am thankful for my struggle, without it I wouldn’t know my strength

Life is good. Really good. If you read my post last week, Progress is progress, your speed does not matter, you’ll know that I was celebrating quite a bit. I’ve come a long way these last couple years. Although I am not where I want to be, I’m getting there. I had to take a moment and think about all the things that brought me to where I am today and why I am so determined to hit my standard of success. The one thing that kept popping up in my head was “I’ve felt the struggle.”

I know what it’s like to hit some really hard times. Not knowing whether there is going to be food on the table for dinner. Will I ever be able to get any clothes that actually fit me? Why does everyone I need always leave? Asking myself if it is my destiny to live below the poverty line in a drug house. I’ve been there. I’ve seen what my life can turn to if I don’t set standards and goals for myself. Every bad thing that has happened in my life has lead me to exactly where I am today.

Every bad thing that has happened in my life has lead me to exactly where I am today. #overcome #thestruggleisrealClick To Tweet

thankfulBe thankful for the hard times, for they have made you

When I talk about my past and the environment I was raised in, I start to see that look on peoples faces. You know the look, like “I’m so sorry you went through all that”. While I am grateful that people show concern and a slight bit of care, I hate that reaction. Please, don’t feel sorry for me. Did I deserve the things I’ve experienced? No. But if I wouldn’t have gone through what I did, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today. I’m thankful for my struggle, because without it I wouldn’t know my strength. If people I relied on wouldn’t have walked out of my life, I never would have learned to stand on my own two feet. If my parents made good money and were able to give me all the things I asked for, I never would have learned the value of a dollar and hard work. All the struggle in my life has pushed me to give myself the life I never had.

All the struggle in my life has pushed me to give myself the life I never had. #overcome #thestruggleisrealClick To Tweet

painI’ve learned more from pain that I could’ve ever learned from pleasure

Life’s greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times.The most valuable lesson I’ve learned in life is that you are in charge of your own happiness. I used to be surrounded by toxic people and toxic relationships. People who said they loved me but their actions proved different. A father who always put his own well being above my own and never made me feel truly loved. I valued those people and their opinions of me. Eventually I started to tell myself I wasn’t good enough for anyone and that being lonely and unhappy was what I had to look forward to in my future. WRONG. SO SO WRONG. Don’t ever let yourself believe that. I finally let go of the attachment I had to those people and learned that I am much better off. I started to find things that made me happy all by myself. I’ve been creating a life around those things ever since and I have never been more content with my life.

Life's greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times. #overcome #thestruggleisrealClick To Tweet

This week I am thanking the Universe for all the hardship and struggle it has given me, for without it, I never would have known what I was capable of overcoming. The biggest things we have to remind our selves of is that we ARE NOT our pasts and we ARE NOT the mistakes we have made. We have the right to move past those things and not let them hold us down.

Are you thankful for your struggle making you who you are today, or is your past controlling you and holding you back from experiencing happiness in life?